Have you ever wondered what might open up in your life if you simply let yourself slow down, breathe, and listen—to your body, your purpose, your cycles? This conversation is a gentle invitation to do just that. This week, Cody is joined by the luminous Vanessa Kinsley—a movement and alignment coach, alchemist of self-care, and living, breathing permission slip to take up space as an ambitious and soul-led woman. Vanessa’s story takes us from her teenage Taebo and Slim Fast days to finding her truth through lost cycles, yoga, motherhood, and a lot of learning to listen to her own rhythms. We flow through what it really means to live in tune with our cycles—not just our menstrual ones, but the big, beautiful spirals of life we all journey through. Vanessa shares her wisdom on syncing movement, self-care, and soulful work with your hormonal tides, and how that one simple shift can transform the way you show up for yourself (and everyone you love). Expect laughter, a few “aha” moments, honest stories, skincare born in the shower, and some myth-busting around what “wellness” is supposed to look like. Plus, Vanessa gifts us the gentle reminder that true self-care isn’t rigid or perfect—it’s a living, breathing dance. And, because she’s incredibly generous, Vanessa is offering listeners a whole month free inside her Aligned Tribe Membership! (Check the show notes for your special code—yes, my friends, magic and gifts do exist.) This episode is for you if you’ve ever felt stuck in hustle mode, wondered why you feel so different week to week, or just want some ease (with a dash of real talk about french fries and motherhood in the mix). Consider this your personal permission slip to slow down, tune in, and let your feminine power rise.
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Hello, friends. Happy whatever time of day, whatever month, all the things. I am so excited, as usual for this conversation. I have the extreme pleasure of both getting to have the conversation and then getting to listen back to the conversation before you even know about the conversation. Anyway, so today we have the beautiful Vanessa Kinsley. She's a movement and alignment coach for ambitious social media soul led women ready to reconnect with their bodies, honor their cycles and lead with feminine power. Through intuitive movement, self care rituals and cyclical rhythm work, she helps women build sustainable lives and businesses rooted in alignment, not burnout. Blending embodiment, energy and soul strategy, she helps women rise with clarity, confidence and ease. I really had such a awesome time with Vanessa. We are so aligned in so many ways, wanting to help women tap into this ease. Right. And she's doing it in a different way so than I am, which is awesome.
We need all these ways.
Ready? Oh, God, here I go with the blabbering. Anyway, I feel like partially you guys love me for that, so maybe not.
I don't know.
Tell me. So, yeah, let's listen to this beautiful conversation with Vanessa and be sure to listen because at the end she has a very special offer for you. And then I'm going to be back talking, talking to you about some things that I have going on. All right, let's listen.
Hi, Vanessa.
Vanessa Kinsley00:01:28 - 00:01:29
Hello.
How are you today?
Vanessa Kinsley00:01:31 - 00:01:33
I'm good. I'm excited to be here.
I'm so excited to have you. Thanks so much for making the space.
Vanessa Kinsley00:01:37 - 00:01:38
Absolutely.
Yeah. So let's, you know, you and I don't know each other. This is our first time chatting, so we're going to get to know each other altogether, guys. So let's just start with some basic stuff like who you are, where are you talking us from, where are you talking to us from, and anything you want to share about sort of how you got to where you are today?
Vanessa Kinsley00:01:59 - 00:02:13
Yeah. So my name's Vanessa. I live in central Florida, been here for about six years. Was born in Venezuela, raised in South Florida. So I've got lots of culture in my blood and my upbringing.
Amazing. And so growing up, you know, people are going to get to hear what you do as a coach for women working with cycles, which is really exciting. I'm really excited to talk about that. But is that what you were always interested in or was it kind of a winding path like some of us take?
Vanessa Kinsley00:02:30 - 00:05:04
Yeah, definitely a winding path. I mean, I've always been into like health and wellness, you know, in the way that it looked like as a 16 year old and what you think is healthy. And then it just. Everything kind of sort of evolved. In my 20s, I got off birth control and everything just kind of went haywire. I completely stopped getting a cycle and period just like, didn't come. It like had a couple wonky months and then it was gone. And so I had gone to the doctors and, you know, all these different. Just trying to get answers, and I didn't really get any answers, nor did anybody try to help me find answers. It was just kind of like, oh, just. Just take this medication or just get back on birth control. So I wasn't getting the why and it was frustrating me. So at that same time, I had gotten into the practice of yoga and mindfulness. I was practicing all different kinds of yoga and it just kind of brought an awareness of, like, wanting to do things more naturally. So that's kind of what embarked my journey into deeper, even more health and wellness. And I did all different types of modalities, like acupuncture, you know, again, even deeper meditation, changing my lifestyle, learning Chinese medicine, all these different paths that you can get into in natural wellness. And little by little, it took like two and a half years. I did not have a period for two and a half years completely. And so. And I got it back. It took a while to even remotely get regular. In the meantime, I was, you know, so many different things happened in those two and a half years regarding my interests and education and my career paths and all these different things. So, like, fast forwarding, I ended up getting pregnant. I got married, got pregnant. And I remember one of the midwives was like, I bet you when you get pregnant, everything's just going to kind of. Just kind of like get back into alignment for you. And so right when I started to get regular, I was kind of like, okay. Like, now I'm okay if I can wait to get pregnant. And I'm going to really focus on. I was a hairstylist at the time. I'm going to focus on doing. Getting my own practice and. Or getting my own studio, rent a studio, do my own thing there. And then I got pregnant. And so, yeah, well, that was still the first time.
Oh, still the first time. Okay.
Vanessa Kinsley00:05:05 - 00:06:06
Yeah, still the first time. And so I was kind of like, all right, well, this is my path. And I think I'm just, we're going to just own this. And I was. And so that's kind of what embarked everything else after that. So I had my first baby that did bring on a normal, healthy cycle after that so I'm grateful for that. I think a lot of it had to do with, you know, diet and mindfulness and all the things that took me the 4ish years to get there. And so that's kind of what started the passion for cycle alignment. And it kind of maybe took a back burner probably because of kids and breastfeeding and another kid. And, you know, I had three babies. And finally by the third, I was pregnant and I. I was like realizing that I just had completely stopped really taking care of myself. Like, I would go for walks and still practice yoga, like when it fit in, you know, but never making a priority. I was like, washing my face with body soap.
You were washing your face? So, I mean, that's.
Vanessa Kinsley00:06:11 - 00:06:14
Yeah, I mean, I guess it was a win. I was taking a shower.
Yeah, you were bathing. Let's keep it real.
Vanessa Kinsley00:06:18 - 00:06:43
Right, Exactly. I mean, that's, that's all really, really, that's really what it is. And so again, wanting, like realizing this aha moment. Like, okay, I need. I want to like, prioritize like my self care. And I just started and doing it naturally and clean. So I just was doing my own skincare. Got different oils and this and that, and then that organically turned into a skincare line.
Oh, wow.
Vanessa Kinsley00:06:44 - 00:06:46
Yeah. So I have a skincare line.
Oh, my God. Okay, wait, I'm gonna pause you because now where there's. I have too many questions and my brain is like all the question reservoir is like overflowing. I can't hold on anymore. So. Okay, this is gonna go way back for a second, but I'm so curious. I don't know how old you are. It's irrelevant. But what did health mean to you at 16? Like, what? You said you were into wellness at 16. I know what that meant for me. I'm gonna date myself. I was an 80s 90s baby. So to me that meant like Cindy Crawford workout tapes and Snackwell cookies, which, as we know, I mean, no knocking Cindy Crawford. I'm sure those workouts are amazing, but the Snackwell cookie part is definitely not health and wellness. Right. So I'm so curious at 16 what that meant to you, because I'm assuming it was slightly different than what it means to you now.
Vanessa Kinsley00:07:34 - 00:07:35
Oh, absolutely.
Yeah.
Vanessa Kinsley00:07:35 - 00:07:45
Okay. So yours were Cindy Crawford and Snackwell, and I was Billy Blank's Taebo and like Slim Fast. Okay.
Okay. All right. Okay. Not that far off.
Vanessa Kinsley00:07:49 - 00:08:08
No. Yeah, exactly. And so. Right. Just you're thinking you're being healthy because you think it's. You want to be Skinny and, you know, and a lot of that was a lot of healing from that as well. Of just this, like, toxic mindset of what healthy you think healthy was.
Yeah. And it's. I mean, we're making a light of it because that's what the best way to be in life, I think. But it's so interesting and deep.
Right.
Like, I feel like, you know, any. Let's say you're between 30 and 50 right now. I'm going to give, like, a huge range as a woman, if that's how you identify. You grew up with a very different mindset around wellness. Like, to truly. We were meant to look a certain way, and that was considered healthy. Right. If you were skinny, you were healthy. If you were not, you weren't. Like, it was pretty black and white. I'm gonna go out on a limb. Obviously, guys, there's nuance here. Right. But, like, it was all based on how you look and what you could do with your body. Right. Not at all how you felt. And so it's just fascinating to me. Like, I feel like our. Again, that, like, very broad generation I just gave. It's probably even broader. And that is really breaking spells and patterns of deep stuff that we grew up that was so different. And I'm just. It's interesting. It's super helpful. Like, when you said that when you were like, oh, you know, I was into Wellness at 16, I was like, wow, that's so interesting, because I feel like I forget how much we've already overcome as people that are awakened to what wellness actually means, which is an ongoing conversation. I'm sorry, I'm gonna stop rambling in a minute, but. And also, you know, just how far we've come is what I'm first said. And then how. Yeah, just like, how lucky, in a way, our children are that they don't have to face that, although they have.
To face other stuff.
My point is that it's just very. I feel like it's important to acknowledge that aspect of this story. Right. Like, that we really had to do our own learning and we didn't have as much access to all the stuff we have access to now.
Vanessa Kinsley00:09:57 - 00:10:14
Totally. That's exactly what it is. And that's why it's a journey. It's like, you start and you have these beliefs, and then, you know, you have your own path of healing to do whatever that looks like, and then you find what works for you, and you, you know, you see, like, truth in different ways.
Yeah, yeah. The hero's journey. Right. It's it's always a, like, pain to purpose situation. Okay, sorry, I just had to interrupt you and go down that road.
Vanessa Kinsley00:10:21 - 00:10:22
Yeah, no, no, no.
So you're a stylist and you start having babies. And so how. You know, and it's really interesting, too. I mean, I, you know, not having a period for two years. How long was it. How long did you have your period before you got pregnant? Ish. You know?
Vanessa Kinsley00:10:39 - 00:10:57
Right. Yeah. I mean, I probably had it for about a year and a half, but it was not regular. It was. It was. It was wonky. I went from like, one month was like 25 days, and then like another month was like 47 days. So it was like, just a mess.
Yeah.
Vanessa Kinsley00:10:58 - 00:10:59
Okay.
It's interesting though, right? Because I was like, oh, I wonder how that's going to impact her fertility. And I knew that you had children, so. But it's really interesting to see, like, how powerful our bodies are. Even, you know, even in the disruption, there was still plenty of space for fertility, so. That's. That's beautiful.
Vanessa Kinsley00:11:17 - 00:11:18
Yeah, that's kind of.
Go ahead. No, yeah, you.
Vanessa Kinsley00:11:19 - 00:11:38
Yeah, that was like, part of, you know, I mean, I was in my early 20s and I wasn't really wanting kids, but I think the thought of, like, what if I wasn't able to have kids? Was really kind of, you know, scary. I had blood work done, and my blood work read as like a woman. A woman in Mary and a Mary. Mary.
Perimenopausal.
Vanessa Kinsley00:11:39 - 00:11:41
Oh, my gosh. Perimenopausal.
That's a good word.
Vanessa Kinsley00:11:43 - 00:11:44
That's the new one. Yeah.
Very penopausal. That sounds better. It's almost like a Christmas holiday. Merry penopausal to you.
Vanessa Kinsley00:11:49 - 00:11:52
Yeah. I was a perimenopausal woman.
Oh, God.
Vanessa Kinsley00:11:52 - 00:11:53
In my 20s.
Right.
Vanessa Kinsley00:11:53 - 00:12:00
And so, yeah, that was kind of like the aha moment. I was like, okay, well, no, that's not the. That's not the direction that we're going. Yeah.
Yeah. And how did you remember? I mean, this is like an interesting question because I don't know if. How.
I don't know.
How long ago is that? Like, how. How many years ago now since. Since that whole journey?
Vanessa Kinsley00:12:10 - 00:12:20
Well, let's see. So my daughter's nine. She's 10. So like 10, 12 years ago. I mean, again, I was like 22 when it's happened, right? Oh, yeah. This is like 10, 15 years ago.
So I'm not sure if you can remember, but if. Can you remember in those two years versus having a cycle now? How did that affect like your emotions and the way you thought and you know, like how you felt in the world as a female. I'm really curious about that, you know? Cause I think it's somewhat of a unique experience to not have and probably not. There's probably a lot of people that have this experience, so it's unique to me. I'm curious how that felt versus when you're on your cycle.
Vanessa Kinsley00:12:49 - 00:13:30
Yeah, Yeah. I mean, I think it was just kind of like I was in this like, like autopilot when I didn't have one because there wasn't really much of a hormone fluctuation. I was really low in progesterone, so there was a lot of. And then, you know, so it was kind of just like I always had this like, constant energy, lots of like overwhelm, you know. So it was like I was in like a fighter, you know, fight or flight mode, like all the time. It's kind of what it felt like. And then I remember when I started getting it back, I was like a teenage girl again. Like, my hormones were wild and I would have like these raging, like emotional outbursts. It was crazy. Yeah.
Yeah. It's interesting. I'm just, I'm thinking a lot about, like, as we're talking about because I just, just. I'm going to totally be very, very candid here. But I didn't. I have my period the last. Almost, almost two and a half years. But that's because I had a baby. But it took almost two years for my period to come back when. After I had her. So it was like, you know, two and a half years, I guess, if you count that. And I was. I've been thinking a lot about that, like beyond just the physical, you know. Oh, it's a way that our body detoxes and da da, da da. There's these hormone fluctuations that happen. I've been thinking a lot about how that changes how we move in the world as a woman, like when we're not going through those natural cycles. Right. And trying to refle. And I think it's different when you're breastfeeding and have just had a baby because there's other hormones at play. Right. But I know we're kind of all over the place, but that's kind of how we roll. So now that you've delved deep into more of the hormone cycle syncing world, what is your perspective on that time now? Like looking back, you know, like how that might have affected how you were thinking, how you were acting, how you were moving, like how does that affect us from your perspective as women? And why did it become. Why did you become so passionate about helping people with that?
Vanessa Kinsley00:14:42 - 00:17:03
Yeah. So I had first gotten introduced to, like, the cycle phases by a book by Miranda Gray, and it's called the Optimized Woman Using Her Menstrual Cycle for Success, something along those lines. But Miranda Gray, and she had broken down this whole menstrual cycle into phases. She didn't use, like, the scientific terms that, like, I know now and we all are aware of because it is kind of more of an awareness. She kind of made them her own, like, tight. She, like, kind of coined them her own phases, like, in their own terms. And I was like, okay. Like, I kind of didn't understand because I didn't really. My cycle wasn't there yet. And so I remember learning about that at that time when I was trying to heal. And then finally after I had my. This is again, ten plus years later, I'm done having kids. I'm on my third baby. He's two and a half, three years old. Right. Same thing. I didn't have my period until after my babies. I was breastfed until almost two. So my periods didn't come until like, at least 18 months at postpartum. So again, he's about two, two and a half. I'm finally, like, passionate about getting more movement. I've always, again, done yoga, strength training. As I'm doing the strength training process, I was like, this isn't feeling the way it's supposed to feel. Like, I feel strong, but I feel exhausted and I feel drained. And I feel. So I'm like, again going back, digging through, like, all my old books. And I pulled this book out and it was like, again, an aha moment. Again, I was like this. I forgot about this. And so I started aligning the way. Again, this was like two years ago, how I moved my body with my cycle phases because they each have such a different energy because of hormones and your mindset and all these different factors. And it's. And we're just not aware of them. And we can get super scientific into, like, the hormones, which honestly isn't even my strong suit. I really just. I really lean into more energies, which you're very familiar with, given your speaking my language. Yeah. And so that's what I resonate with. And it's more of, like, a feeling, like, and knowing where I am and during my phase of my cycle and how certain energies affect me is. Gives so much clarity and, like, solace to, like, harder Times, more abundant times and so forth.
I love this so much. Can we get deep into this now? Let's get deep into helping people understand each phase. So let's go through each phase and talk about what's going on and, you know, some simple tips to, like, what to do, what to be mindful of. I don't like telling people what not to do, but what to be mindful of and that sort of thing. Let's do it.
Vanessa Kinsley00:17:24 - 00:19:06
Yeah, absolutely. Okay, so, right, you have the four phases. You have the menstrual cycle, the follicular phase, the ovulatory phase, and your luteal phase. So your menstrual phase is day one. You get your period. That's the day. You know, typically, again, I say typically because a lot of women actually feel a lot of release when they get their period because of so much tension of, like, PMS and whatever emotions kind of happen prior. So there is like a tension release during that menstrual phase. But typically the energy is still very introverted and inward and low and. And just kind of more reflective. And so, again, that's what I love about, like, aligning your energies. So we kind of just. If you can just tap into those energies, even if you feel so much more vibrant, just be conscious of, like, that's the cycle I'm in. So, yes, I can do more than I felt like I could do yesterday, but I'm still going to be aware of where I am and take it easy. You know, stretching, yoga walk, if you're really into strength training, just like maybe deload, doing a little bit slower, a little bit more mindful. Great time to reflect. Great time for meditation, journaling and just kind of processing the whole month prior of what happened. Right. Because the period isn't what's about to happen. The period is releasing of what already happened. So if we reflect on all the things that have gone, we can just let. Then we can learn and let go. And that's the. The physical part of, you know, the menstrual phase.
I love that so much. It's like a. It's like a snake shedding their skin every month, right?
Vanessa Kinsley00:19:10 - 00:19:11
Yeah, exactly.
Shed the previous month. That's really beautiful.
Vanessa Kinsley00:19:14 - 00:20:03
Yeah. And, you know, just tapping into that energy and knowing that it's there. It's. And it just kind of what's really cool too, with like the brain waves specifically at that time, like the left side of the hemisphere of the brain and the right side have. They have like a portal. And so like, during the menstrual phase. Like the two sides communicate even better. Like the communication between the two is. Flows beautifully. So that is why it's such a good time to like tap into that intuition and tap into reflection because then we can like process better. And then you can kind of shed and release and have more space for the next phase, which is the follicular molecular phase, which is the phase two. It's new. You know, you're, you're, you're like shed and clear and, and like, you know, you've let go and so you now have all this space and great time around.
Sorry, around what day does that start? Like, is that dependent on when you stop bleeding or is that more of like a general day, you know, based on your whole cycle? And if your cycles are regular, how does that all work?
Vanessa Kinsley00:20:14 - 00:20:32
Yeah, exactly. So, yes. So typically a cycle, right. Again, it's ranges, but 28ish days. So some people who experience cycle sinking that have irregular cycles, when they tap into the energies, they see that their cycles start to align and become more regular. Which is kind of cool.
That's awesome.
Vanessa Kinsley00:20:36 - 00:22:09
But yeah, so like the menstrual cycle, again, typically days one through like five, six, seven, again, it can vary. And then you start getting more of that energy around like day three or four. Typically, you know, you have like that low lull of the first few days. Rest, relax, and then you have more energy, but just still being mindful of what phase you're in. And then follicular phase comes and you're just like fresh and you like day seven, six or eight, you know, again, when that lasts about. Till about day 11, 12. Great time to start new things like start projects, try something new, learn something new, start that course, read that book, begin that new project, you know, whatever it is, Take a new exercise class. It's like the time for new because really you're. You're renowned, you're renewed. And so that's like the energy of the follicular phase just like just start the thing, do the thing. Like this is the time to do. And you feel like that energy kind of taps in and you're able to do it. And then that kind of leads into that ovulatory phase, which is like the smallest little window. It's like the time that we feel the best is like the smallest amount of. Yeah, it's, it's a great time to really own feeling that space and like again, leaning into it and like knowing where you are in this phase. And like, you're just like feeling super high Vibe and sexy and I can accomplish anything. And I'm a powerhouse mom and I've got it all creative.
Right. You're. It's a creational time.
Vanessa Kinsley00:22:11 - 00:22:11
Yeah.
Baby or no baby.
Vanessa Kinsley00:22:13 - 00:24:22
Yeah, exactly, exactly. Baby or no baby. And right. You're like attracting all the things and this is the time to be social. If you are, you know, like recording things. Like best time to communicate with people, you know, have a conversation, social gatherings, meetings, interviews. That's like the prime time for the ovulatory phase. And again, like when it comes to movement, just like higher intensity, whatever that means to you. And the body's really like equipped to adapt to that and recover from higher intensity movement. And then of course you come into the luteal phase which is like everybody's, you know, everyone's like oh, the ludio face. But it's. I've actually learned to really honor it because it's a great time for growth because it brings up all the past. It brings up your like the negative mind thoughts and the doubts. Or at least this is what happens. It's more easy happen. Like we lean into more of those negative thoughts during this time. That's what the PMS and the mood swings and you know, all the things that comes or the luteal phase is coined with. But again, slowing down again strength training if you're into that. It's like this is the time for focusing on form and weight and just slower movements. Yoga flows. I love to flow during my luteal phase because I for me it releases a lot of tension going forward. Out walk and nature is a good way to flow in unison with nature. And it's that time to wrap it all together. Wrap up those projects, those projects that you started. Either like close down the steps and the phases that you're there and then, you know, get it together. You know, it's a very, your very. Your mind works in a very detail oriented way during this phase. So it's great to go back into anything that you're writing, review, grammar, all those things. Yeah. And then you come back all the way back into the menstrual phase.
Amazing. That's awesome. So now I'm curious. Thank you so much for all that. I feel like that was super helpful for everybody to just hear because gosh, I just wish this was part of education and I hope that in the future it is. Right? Because I remember when I first got my period, I was 12, I was just terrified and just like, ah, you know, like no one ever taught me about that for sure. And maybe at 12, you're not ready to hear about that, but, you know, as you mature, it could be such. It's. I don't. Not could, but it would be such useful information. So now I'm so curious how you've. Because that sounds wonderful. But then I'm thinking, like, life, Right. So how have you incorporated that as a mom? You're a mom of three children, right? You don't get to be like, hey, kids, I'm having my period. Doors closed, bye. You know, like, definitely not. Especially not four year old. Right. So how have you kind of come, you know, was there a period where you were kind of like, pissed that life wasn't able to be in this way? Or how did you kind of come to incorporate this into real life?
Vanessa Kinsley00:25:25 - 00:26:00
Yeah, I think it's kind of taking everything into balance. Right? Like. Or it's. We all try to balance and then there's days where this is higher and this is lower and all of the things. But just kind of reminding myself, like, what phase I'm in is helpful to how I react, how I respond, how I take on tasks, how I delegate tasks. Like, hey, I know I'm gonna be, you know, I look at my calendar and I look at my, like, cycle calendar and I, you know, it can't be perfect. Like, you know, there's gonna be a party on my period the day that I get it and I'm not gonna, sorry, I can't go.
Can you.
Vanessa Kinsley00:26:02 - 00:26:03
Can you move the day?
I'll be in the red tent.
Vanessa Kinsley00:26:04 - 00:27:04
But exactly. So, you know, then you just, you just kind of. You work with those, you know. Okay, so say that's the example. I know that I'm gonna go to this party and I'm on my period, so I'm just gonna kind of. Instead of just being like, okay, I'm gonna suck it up and I'm gonna act like it's not here. It's like, no, I'm just gonna own that I'm here, but I'm still gonna, like, dress my best and feel beautiful and be here. And like, you know, if I have a conversation, it comes like, yeah, you know, I'm like, I'm on my period, but whatever. Tomorrow I'm just. Tomorrow I'm gonna do nothing, and tomorrow I'm gonna be restful. You know, if you have. Or if you're working hard and you have to go to work and you have a 9 to 5 and you have to report to the big man who has not a care in the world, what Your feminine cycle is then just, you know that. So you get to be in control of what you do after. Like how do you come home and how do you refill your own cup?
I love that. I feel like what's coming in for me is just a lot, you know, this is opening to a deeper level of compassion for yourself. So really like it's not necessarily, I mean great if the stars align and you get to have a rest day when you're menstruating. Amazing. Like go for it. But more just being compassionate and understanding where you are. And that I think can probably really help with like you were saying how you react. Like, oh, okay, I know that today I'm not gonna have the energy so what can I do so that I'm not reactive when my 2 year old is running around screaming or whatever it is. You know. So yeah, I love that. I think that's been really on my mind lately is just like not the fuzzy kind but how to have deep self compassion. Right. And I think this can be so helpful in just understanding where you are. So I have a couple questions. What about food? Do you do stuff with that too? Like how does that, is that in four cycles or is that more in like halves? Because I've seen like with seed cycling it's actually broken down more just like the first half, the second half. Right. Tell me if I'm wrong.
Vanessa Kinsley00:28:03 - 00:29:17
Yeah, I mean I take like again I take personally that all that kind of stuff kind of a grain of salt. I try to stay as natural whole food organic as possible with my family and how we eat. And of course like I have again three kids when we're around, they're in school, like we have chicken nuggets and french fries some days and like what are we going to do about it? You know. But for the most part like I, we try to be mindful of like the foods that we eat. And yes, there are definitely foods that support each phase the best. Like you know, for your menstrual phase you want like just deep nourishing foods, so they say, like soups and stews and you know, things that are like just super high in minerals and there's different foods that you can kind of pinpoint and come out and take and just like make sure that you have that in your, in your like nourishing yourself with that during those phases, you know. And then you have like your again luteal phase which is you have, they. Your body's actually more tolerable to complex carbohydrates. Like it's beneficial to eat a little bit more of that whole weight, you know, a whole, the whole food of it, not just this muffin is a complex carb.
Not goldfish crackers.
Vanessa Kinsley00:29:18 - 00:30:06
Yeah, not goldfish crackers. But your body is going to be able to process it a little bit easier during that phase. So yeah, there's definitely. And there's, there's so many different charts out there of like foods that best nourish different phases. And like I've played around with it and I just, but I'm like, I feel like I eat these foods like throughout all the time anyways. So for me it's been like, I really just tried to keep that as like a whole all the time, if that makes sense. And then maybe I have less, not less, but maybe I do. I'm a more, a little bit more conscious of it during certain phases. If it comes up for me, like, man, I'm kind of feeling kind of crappy. Like, what have I not eaten while? Have we had chicken nuggets and pasta for three days in a row? Because nobody's had time to, you know, cook a nourishing meal.
Yeah, yeah, I know, I know, I know. That's amazing. And what I really love about this conversation is I feel like this could easily go in a different direction where it could go into like rigidity, right? Like, oh, during this phase I only do this and I only eat that and I'm not doing this and I'm not doing that. And I love that that's not your vibe at all. Like, I love that. It's just more of an awareness and more of a way to elevate what's already happening in your life and not a way to control or manipulate or shame what's currently going on. So I just think that that's really special to have that. So now I'm really curious and if there's anything you want to say about that, chime in.
Vanessa Kinsley00:30:50 - 00:31:06
But no, like I do, I do. That's exactly it. Like it's just like another tool, right? It's like another tool, another piece of knowledge that I know and learn about myself, that now I know how to apply it on a day to day basis in our daily routine in the society that we live.
Yeah, yeah, I love that. It's definitely something that I'm going to think more about because it's super helpful. So I'm curious how this became what you do in the world and also what does your work look like? Do you do more groups? I know you said you Have a membership. Yeah. Tell me a little bit about more the evolution of like the professional aspect of this, for lack of a better word.
Vanessa Kinsley00:31:27 - 00:33:35
For sure. I. Right. So like I had a skincare line and then as like skincare was kind of became more progressive, what I really realized what was like my passion was just serving other women and prioritizing their self care. So it was like, here's a way, like prioritize your self care. Because that is what I needed. I needed to prioritize, prioritize my self care. So I started making skincare and I was like, this is for you. You need to prioritize yourself. And then here's a natural way to do it. All clean ingredients, all the things. And then again, like two years ago when I was getting into the cycle alignment again, I was like, this is also part of self care, especially for women. And back in 2013 when I was going through all of my healing journey, like I said, so many different things happened during this two and a half years. I got certified as a holistic health coach. And so Fast forward to 20, 23, 10 years later, I'm like, babies, yeah, yeah, babies. Babies in life. I wanted to like share that passion again and get into the coaching and supporting women and guiding women. And so for the last year, I've kind of dedicated a lot of my energy and my passion into, into that. So now I coach women and I guide them into just leaning into their bodies a little bit more again with like a flow and an ease, using cycle alignment, using meditations and different types of movement and strength training and affirmations and all these different tools that I have, you know, again, for lack of, but not mastered. But you know, I have used them for so long that I was like, I have all these tools that I wanted to share with other women that I know whatever pulls to them, they'll. They can lean into it. And then we can all like, serve our better purpose because we all have this little feminine power and this little light inside of us and like, we just got to lean into it and then like so much just can come up for us, like in clarity and vision and focus and direction and purpose.
I love that. And I'm going to start to say something that's going to sound wildly not in alignment with this conversation, but just bear with me guys for a minute. So what this makes me think of, I've talked maybe about this. I'll do a deeper dive maybe about this on at some point. But so in feng shui, there's a lot of different ways to look at it. And one of the ways is a more of a cosmology perspective. And a new cycle started in 2023, a new 20 year cycle. So we went from period 8 to period 9. And period 9 is a very different energy than period 8, where in period 8 it was way more of a yang masculine energy. Right. So the rise of these like big monopolies, Amazon, Netflix, all of these like conglomerates. Right. That's where it had the power and the shift that one of the shifts, many shifts occurred. But one of the shifts that I just keep feeling as you're talking is what's called the rise of the middle aged woman. So there's much more available energy for women to really come into a place of quote, unquote power. And it's so cool. And beauty is more important and aesthetics are more important, but in a deeper beauty. Right. Not just like superficial. And I love what you're saying because what you're saying and what I'm hearing is that you're here to help women sort of tap into that essence and allow them their lives to flow from that essence versus, like this trying to fit into the energy of what has been set up as a very masculine world.
Vanessa Kinsley00:35:03 - 00:35:04
Yes, exactly.
Feel free to steal any of that for your.
Vanessa Kinsley00:35:07 - 00:35:10
Oh my God, that's so perfect. Yeah.
Period nine.
I'm here, let's go. Yeah.
Vanessa Kinsley00:35:12 - 00:35:22
Okay. And then like. Okay, right. Like I'm in my luteal phase, so. So I just passed last week. We were in my ovulatory phase where a lot of these stuff would have probably come out way more clear and authentic.
Right, right.
Vanessa Kinsley00:35:24 - 00:35:30
So here we are. And. Yeah, that's exactly it. And so two months ago I started a membership.
Tell me about it.
Vanessa Kinsley00:35:32 - 00:36:26
Yeah. And so I have this collective of women. We've got a dozen, maybe 13 women in there so far. And it's just a community. And I share. It's like audio drops. I just kind of like five to 10 minutes and just little inspirational things of mindset, shifts, cycle alignment, audio movements, meditations. And so it's just like a way to kind of. Especially if you're like new into the world of like mindfulness and wanting to learn more about like spirituality and tapping into the body. And. Right. Like that's my thing is like leaning into the body and like getting out of your head and into your body. Because there's so much logic. And again, right. Like that masculinity is very logical. It's very like black and white. And this is how it's done. And there's this step, and this is the framework, and this is how we need. That's how it has. That's how we achieve success.
Right.
Vanessa Kinsley00:36:27 - 00:37:01
Whereas the feminine, like, we don't achieve success like that. You can. You absolutely can. But what happens is a lot of times, not for everybody, but it can lead to burnout and overwhelm a lot quicker. So this feminine energy is very fluid. We literally flow. We have a rhythm in a cycle. And so when we honor that and we lean into that, we can. Like our. Our essence is just. It kind of. Now I lost my.
It's okay.
Vanessa Kinsley00:37:02 - 00:37:04
But we're with you.
We're totally with you.
Vanessa Kinsley00:37:05 - 00:37:07
Yeah. Got really into the flow there.
Yeah.
Vanessa Kinsley00:37:09 - 00:38:02
But, yeah, leaning into that feminine femininity for myself has allowed me to see so much clearer of the things that I want in this life and how we actually can achieve them in a feminine way. We don't have to do them in this, you know, masculine way. And there was a purpose for it. There was a lot of growth for it, and there still is a purpose for it. We need, you know, the. The male and the female to create human life. So there's still a balance of that. But now this feminine power and this feminine energy, the matriarchy, there's just so many different words that are, like, you know, coming up in today buzzwords that I'm super passionate about helping other women find that for themselves. Like, they know that there's something else inside of them, and it's just hard to kind of reframe and change that thought and leaning into that to find it.
That's beautiful. Yeah. And, you know, I think it's. It's appropriate because there has been such an out of balance. Right. The masculine has been so much more valued in our society and in the way we were taught than the feminine. And like, you're saying we don't. We need the masculine. We have masculine energy within us. Yin yang. Right. They both exist. It's not all or nothing, but allowing that feminine energy to rise and then learning how to work with your masculine side. Right. Like, oh, yeah, I. I do need to flow. But you know what? I also need containment. Because water needs containment. Water out of balance is a problem, you know?
Vanessa Kinsley00:38:38 - 00:38:39
Exactly.
Too much flow, flood. Right. So.
Vanessa Kinsley00:38:43 - 00:38:47
And that's the ovulatory phase, Right, Right. The ovulatory phase is masculine.
Right.
Vanessa Kinsley00:38:48 - 00:39:02
Like, yeah, we feel sexy and feminine and, like, you know, flirty, but, like, it's. It's high testosterone. Like, that is. That is the very masculine Energy of the ovulatory phase. And so that is the balance and the flow there.
Yeah. And the other thing I want to just say is one of the other reasons I love this work that you're doing, and I want to talk a little bit about your one on one work as well, is that I've been really thinking a lot about my own healing journey and how most of the information and I think about this, I'll give an example that I think is about like the best example in this case. But most of the information I came across I really believe was the. Geared towards people born into a male body. Right. Like with those, with that set of hormones. Cold plunging is my favorite example of this, I hear. I was at a woman's gathering this past weekend and someone was talking about cold plunging and how it's so wonderful and it's so great for you. And I was like, you know what, I totally disagree. I hear you. And I think in a case to case very specific moment of time, it can be helpful. But I feel like as women, we're really not meant to do that. We're really meant to be warm. Our uteruses are meant to be warm. We're supposed to be nourished and warm. We're not supposed to be fasting and cold. Right. Like, I think that's way more appropriate for a male person. So anyway, I really just love that you're coming into this space because I think that it's so important for someone that's interested in say like biohacking or anything to do with health to really learn from someone that studied this, that studied your cycle and your hormones. Because yeah, maybe cold plunging and intermittent fasting isn't right for you.
Vanessa Kinsley00:40:27 - 00:40:56
Yeah, exactly. And there's just like, oh, this is the way to do it. Or, and if it's something that you do want to try again, like, try it during the different phases of your cycle. Cold plunging fasting probably best suited during a follicular ovulatory phase where the body isn't, you know, and, and from like, I don't know if it's a Chinese perspective, but there, there is like lots of like suggestion like during the menstrual phase, like wear socks, stay warm. Like, you know, like.
Or if you want to get pregnant, period. Because you don't want your body to be cold if you're gonna get pregnant.
Vanessa Kinsley00:41:01 - 00:41:11
Yeah, exactly. You know, so I agree. I mean, cold plunging is definitely not my thing. I don't like to be cold. I have a pool and I don't get in it unless it's like almost 90 degrees. Yeah, you know.
Yeah.
Vanessa Kinsley00:41:13 - 00:41:15
But yeah, I'm with you on that for sure.
Yeah. And you know, we're not saying it's wrong, like if that's something that's serving you, but I would look at like zoom out. Right. Like if, if what we just said felt confronting. Because you're like, no, I intermittent fast every day and I'm an avid follower of Wim Hof and cold plunging. Great. Nothing wrong with that. But see how is that serving you in your life? Zoom out a little bit. Like how are you feeling emotionally and how is everything going? You know, and flexibility because like you're saying we're cyclical creatures so we don't need to get like you were saying. I'm gonna go back a little bit. You know, when you didn't have your period, one of the reasons I asked you that was I wanted to know if it was more of like a constant. Right. Versus like this flow. And that's what you said. And men are more in that constant. Right. They have cycles and periods too, but it's different. So I think it's just so beautiful to open yourself up to this idea of health being flexible and being sickular and there being seasons and phases. Whether you do this in this month long way or 30, whatever days, or whether you do it in a more seasonal way. But just really understanding that flexibility is super important for both men and women. But for this sake of this conversation, for women to really be flexible and be able to tap into their body and know what they need to adjust. So thank you so much for bringing that today. I feel super awake and passionate about everything you said. And before we get to the closing, I want to, I mean I'm going to talk about how people can find you, but I want to just know a little bit more about your one on one work, how that kind of container works with you.
Vanessa Kinsley00:42:41 - 00:44:00
Yeah, so we work one to one, so it's super high touch. I have different like containers. I do like a three month, a six month, 12 month and we talk twice a month. We do a virtual call because try to work with, you know, as many people as you as you can reach and you get complete, complete access to me through telegram. So we are, I'm with you in your back pocket. It's real time, you know, you're having a thought and I get to like kind of work with you and like we do a lot of mindset shifts and like what are your goals, what are your passions, what Is it that you want to expand? Right. So, like, I'm all about, like, let's get expansive and being okay with wanting more, and, like, we can be content and happy, but if you want a little more, that's okay too, but what does that look like for you? And so we kind of get specific on what it is that they want and, you know, the women want. And we use all these different tools because we are living in those phases. So each time we get to work a little bit deeper, a little bit more awakening, a little bit more clarity. And, you know, we've had some. Some pretty fun breakthroughs.
Tell me, tell me, what is the transformation?
Vanessa Kinsley00:44:02 - 00:45:06
Yeah, yeah, exactly. Just like, again, like, this clarity of. Of a passion. Like, what is the passion that you have seen for yourself for so long and the being able to take these tools and apply them to your life and run with that passion. So I had a client who, you know, we worked just for a few weeks together, and she had all these different types of side hustles that she loved, and she was like, I love this, this, this, this, and that. And at the end of our time together, she's like, I started writing, and she had did this writing years ago in high school and won contest, and she completely forgot about it, and now she's writing a book. I'm like, this is the transformation. You get to find out what it is that is igniting you or that kindling fire that you have, and we get to ignite it and blow it up, and they get to do that. I provide these tools and the space, and it's a beautiful transformation.
Yeah, that's amazing. And so in alignment with this year, the year of the snake, right? Like shedding skin and tapping into your essence. So, yeah, I'm excited for anyone listening to this that feels that call. I think this is such an aligned action to take this year to really get to know who you are and where you're going and how you can get there in a more easeful way. Because I feel like there's a lot of ease that's coming through what you're talking about. Like, just not pushing, not forcing, but really understand when is the right time to do this and when is the right time to reflect. And. And that's. That's really, really beautiful. So thank you so much for bringing all this. It's been. I feel like there's so much juice in this conversation, and people can really start to apply these right away. So thank you.
Vanessa Kinsley00:45:50 - 00:45:51
Yeah, thank you.
All right, darling. I don't know Why I just called you that. Is there, is there anything, darling? Sometimes these things come out of my mouth that like I'm like, what? Who said that? Is there anything else that you feel you want to share? I just want to give you some space to do that. And also, please tell everybody this will all be in the show notes. So if you're driving, don't pull over to write down this information, but just go down below and you can click on all the things and find Vanessa. But tell everyone like the best places to connect with you, how to find out about your membership and your one on one work and where to follow along.
Vanessa Kinsley00:46:27 - 00:46:42
Okay, well, I have an Instagram, it's utifully conscious and so I'm on there. I'm pretty active. DMs great. I also have my website which has all my services. I've got my skincare line on there.
Amazing. That's still exist.
Vanessa Kinsley00:46:43 - 00:46:44
Yeah.
Oh great.
Vanessa Kinsley00:46:44 - 00:46:46
That's great. Yeah, it's just, you know, it's like.
Like this little like rocking on the side.
Vanessa Kinsley00:46:48 - 00:47:50
Yeah, yeah. I love it. It's great. And I. Because I still use it for my family and everything, but. Yeah. And so BeautifullyConscious.com is my website. You can find me there. I have the information you can look over though my one to one mentorship, you can apply there. And then I have my membership there as well. It's called the Aligned Tribe, a women's collective. And we are just. It's a daily community. So I drop in there several times a week and you just get to listen to little audio drops, motivational speaks while you walk. And a great beautiful collective of women like all on their own, like a similar path of just like enlightening and awakening and lots of little fun nuggets in there too of meditations and audio drops of movement. And I do like audio movements, which is kind of fun. But. Yeah. And then for your listeners, I want to give them a free month of the membership.
Whoa. Thank you.
Vanessa Kinsley00:47:51 - 00:48:19
Yeah, yeah. When you sign up. So if you sign up for the membership, you'll get a whole month free. And you. It's a yearly membership, it's a monthly fee, so you'll get the first month free if they decide. If you decide to sign up, if you have any questions, like you can reach out to me again on Instagram. Eautifully conscious. And I'm here for any questions because I love to talk about all of this and wherever you are and whatever your passion, you're ready to ignite.
Amazing. And what is that discount code.
Vanessa Kinsley00:48:22 - 00:48:24
Oh, it's Cody 44.
Cool. I love it. Yeah, I love a double number. I'll take it. Yeah, that's Cody44. That'll be in the show notes. But if you do happen to be typing right now, you've got it. Well, thank you so much. Vanessa and I do have one final question for you. So we know the name is create the space, right? So what are you currently creating space for in your life?
Vanessa Kinsley00:48:44 - 00:49:02
Yeah, I am creating space for being more expansive in how I deliver this transformation to more women. I had started this a year ago, and so I've been working with women and I'm just every day just creating more space to invite more women in and to just help them on their journey.
I love that. What a perfect year to do this. Thank you so much for being here. I'm so excited to have had this conversation.
Vanessa Kinsley00:49:09 - 00:49:13
Thank you for having me. It was a pleasure and an honor to be here today.
Thank you. All right, talk to you soon. Bye.
Vanessa Kinsley00:49:15 - 00:49:16
Bye.
Okay, friends, thank you so much for listening. So the direction link to the align tribe membership with Vanessa. With Vanessa. And remember, she has a special offer for us. All of that info is in the show notes. So don't stop driving or folding clothes or doing dishes or whatever it is that you're doing right now.
Showering.
Just check out the show notes. When you have a minute. There'll be a link. You get a free month. It's also on her website. There's a link there too. So, yeah, I highly recommend jumping into Vanessa's world following her on Instagram. I've really been thinking about my time differently since having this of kind conversation. So, yes, thank you so much, Vanessa.
Okay, feng shui.
It's feng shui time. So today I'm going to just tell you a little story about feng shui because I think a lot about how to communicate the power of this wisdom. And I think sometimes that is best communicated maybe all the time. But, you know, nothing is absolute through story. So here is a little feng shui story from my life recently. So one of the things, one of.
The main reasons that I practice feng.
Shui is because I believe that it helps align our life with opportunity. And what does that really mean?
Here we go.
So the other day I. Well, not the other day, but yeah, the other day I went to acupuncture for the first time in a little while. Since moving, we haven't really connected with an acupuncturist that, that I wanted to keep working with. So finally I went to this person and I found them and then we just started talking and I started telling them about what they.
What I do.
And they were super excited about feng shui and really want to be, you know, working together on that and bringing some clients my way. So it just felt so good because I know that's how it works. You know, you do the things in your house, you set up your space, you engage with your space, you have a relationship with your space, and things.
Like that just happen.
Just come in. I would have never thought that I didn't go to acupuncture thinking, oh, this is a business connection for me. No, I went to acupuncture for my body, for my health, and that's what happened. And plus, even finding this acupuncturist who most people in this area haven't even heard of. Everyone's like, who's this person? Where is this person? The people that everybody recommended in this area, I tried and I was just like, no, not my vibe. I just happened to find this person in a magazine about some article. Things like this, you know, these connections that just sort of pop up and just feel so aligned and so good. So that is my little feng shui story for the day. And let's see what do I got going on? Okay, so right now, the thing that I most have going on is I just launched. Is not the right word, but I.
Just finished creating a three day lucky.
Home challenge for you.
So this is kind of a super condensed version of the nine day lucky.
Home challenge that we did a little while ago.
This is three days and it's delivered right to your inbox.
You do it on your own and you.
There's no time. You know, you don't.
It doesn't end. It's just.
It's forever.
Evergreen, as they call it, living out there in the interwebs. And you can jump in at any time. So check that out. That'll be in the show notes. Again, it's completely free, and I chose some unique flavors for this.
I didn't want to go the.
There's one like classic in there, but then I have some unique flavors in there, so check it out. Especially if you've been hanging around the feng shui world for a little while and you want something, something a little different. Anyway, thank you so much. The other thing I would just really.
Love to ask of you is if.
You do have time, even two minutes.
I think you could do this in.
Cody maher00:52:56 - 00:53:21ExcludeCopy timestamps
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Bye.