Welcome back, friends! In today’s episode, we’re diving into the lush, untamed heart of what it means to reclaim your whole self—and spoiler alert: we get pretty real about dog diarrhea, fudge, and sacred rage. I sit down with Emily Bailey—self-proclaimed “sacred disruptor of performance culture,” midwife of women’s wild remembering, and the radiant guide behind Whole and Wild. Emily is a true champion for helping us bring home all the parts of ourselves (even those “too much” or “not enough” bits we like to shut away in our internal basements). Her approach? Less “must-do-more,” more “come home to your body, your own wild rhythm, and core truth.” Yes, please. Emily shares her own wake-up moment—a time of dullness, caged intuition, and relationship brinkmanship—and how throwing open the doors to her inner wildling brought laughter, creativity, and yes, even better fudge (trust us, it makes sense). We talk Yellowstone wolves, how a little (sacred) rage can actually heal and flourish, and what it really looks like to welcome back the pieces of ourselves that we’ve banished for being inconvenient or intense. (Ever feel like anger might devour all the lovable bits? Emily has advice.) ✨ Emily also gives us a peek into her six-month “Rewilded” coaching journey and her fresh community, Root & Ritual—a multigenerational haven for women in the sacred, awkward, sometimes overlooked “threshold spaces” of life. Think: menopause, motherhood, those seasons in-between when you know you’ve outgrown the old but the new isn’t here yet. Instead of rushing through, how about honoring each step?
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Hi, friends. Welcome back. It is my intention as we move into the end of this year to get in a rhythm with this podcast because I am interviewing such amazing people and I really want to honor them by having some sort of schedule for this thing. Now, if you know me, you know that I struggle with schedules. I am not a routine person. That's just not my jam. So I married an ultra routine person sometimes driving me absolutely up the wall because, you know, we a plan, says Doug, my husband. And I'm like, wow, the plan's changed. But anyway, all that aside, I do really want to get into a rhythm so that you can reliably know that on X day you're gonna have a new episode of Create the Space. Because again, I've been having these amazing conversations and I want to share them with you in some reliable fashion. So feel free to hold me to that. Feel free to call me out on the gram like, Cody, get your shit together, let's go. Anyway, okay. Hi. So today I'm having a beautiful conversation. I already had it, but now you're going to listen to it with the magnificent Emily Bailey. She is a sacred disruptor of performance culture. Yes, please. And a midwife of women's wild remembering. She's got a signature program called. Well, it's a. It's really more of a reclamation experience. It's called Rewilded. And this is where she guides during the devoted aliveness to pleaded women out of over functioning and into embodied unapologetic presence. So her work isn't about doing the more stuff. It's about coming home to your body, your rhythm and your truth. She is nervous system rooted paradox loving and soul deep. And I really enjoyed this conversation. I definitely challenged Emily on some things and she was right there. And by the end, we really came to a beautiful, beautiful, deep place. And so I am excited to share this conversation. I'm excited to share her work with you. Check the links, as always, for how to get involved with Emily. And without further blabbering from yours truly until the end, if you like my blathering, I'll be back. Here's Emily. Hi, Emily. Good morning. Good morning, everyone. I was just thanking Emily for her patience because I had one of those mornings where like the, you know, the, the, the odd mornings where the dog has diarrhea all over the floor and then like this, this, this, this, this, this and this happens. So anyway, I hope everyone here is not having one of those mornings. And I'm so excited for our conversation. So welcome. Thank you. I'M excited. Yeah. And we don't know each other at all. We don't really. So this is going to be fun. We're going to be getting to know each other right along with you guys. Audience. So, yeah, Emily, tell me a little bit about who you are, where you are. Let's just start with the basics. Yeah, absolutely. So I'm Emily Bailey and my business is called Hole and Wild. So it's a coaching practice. And I also recently started a community for women. I'm really, really passionate about the entire range of your being, being allowed to show up in your world because I deeply believe that all of us is meant to belong. And. And that's where the whole part of Hole and Wild comes in. And most of the time, the parts of us that we're most afraid of or that we shun or have labeled as, you know, the villain or the not worthy, too much, too little, whatever, most of the time, it's those parts that are actually required for us to experience the fullest version of flourishing in our lives. And so I'm really passionate about partnering with women to reclaim their whole selves, the whole range of their being, and just bring those back into a place of honor in their landscape of their life. So, yeah, amazing. And I'm assuming that this comes from some sort of experience you had with yourself. Yeah, usually not that. Right. Because it's usually not. When people have these, these kinds of missions and callings in the world, it usually comes from an experience of. Yeah, I don't have to say it again, but yeah, tell us about sort of how you got to that, how you became so passionate about that. Yeah, absolutely. So back in 2017, I kind of had like a. An awareness, wake up experience where I was just kind of living my life. And one day I realized that I felt really dull. Like I. My senses felt dulled. I didn't. I couldn't remember the last time I had laughed in relationship. I. My finances weren't doing great. I didn't feel creative. Like there's just a whole lot of dullness. And I kind of had been tolerating it and not really like naming it, and it suddenly became very clear and I couldn't. I couldn't not see it. And so I simultaneously actually all in one week, sort of had this aha of the reason being that I had actually caged my intuition. And I say that wording very specifically because if you think about an animal that's in a cage, you can actually still build relationship with it. You know, where to Find it. You can, you know, play with it or go in and be with it. And I had access to my intuition, but I was not allowing my intuition to roam wild and free in my life. And that was because I had started to believe a story that my intuition was dangerous and that the things that I might know could, you know, threaten a safe life for whatever reason, for some story that I had lived in the past. And. But because I had caged my intuition, I was actually slowly and steadily depleting the aliveness in my experience. And so I kind of had a sort of intense climactic moment where I actually almost lost the most significant relationship in my life. And it required me to sort of throw open the cage doors and say, I'm no longer caging my intuition. I don't know what's about to happen, but I'm gonna trust my instincts, and I'm gonna trust my whole self, and I'm not gonna let it cost me the things that are most dear. And so I. Yeah, I. I breathlessly actually was in the middle of leading. I worked for a nonprofit at the time. I was in the middle of leading a. A big event that I had planned, and I dropped everything, trusted my team, and went and took care of what I needed to take care of. And. Yeah, and that day after it, you know, it result my. That's actually my. My husband is now. He was my boyfriend then, my husband now, but. So everything resolved there. But I. I committed to myself that I was never going to cage my intuition again. And I had this idea in my mind that change takes a while, right? Like, once you. Once you decide, like, okay, I'm gonna create a new habit, or whatever. It takes a minute to get there. But actually, almost immediately, I saw changes. Like, there was laughter that was restored. I suddenly had access to inspiration and creativity again, and I started creating, which then helped my finances. And this might sound really funny, but I don't know if you've ever made fudge before, but fudge is. Made a lot of things, but fudge is not one of them. Maybe unintentionally, like, when I try to make something else. Well, fudge is one of those really interesting things where if you take it off the stove too early, it's not fudge, and if you take it off too late, it's not fudge. So it actually requires intuition and kind of instinct on, like, okay, it's ready. I need to. And I had actually been making a lot of not fudge prior to that. And my fudge was suddenly awesome. On point right after that. But other things, even, like, my memory improved. Like, I had access to my body differently. Like, there were so many things that started just literally unfolding. And I know I've kind of shared for a minute. Do you mind if I actually go into a little bit more story around this? No, this is your time. Say, say it all. Awesome. So one of the things that happened, and this is really what launched me into, like, the current iteration of my business, was I. I was on this journey where I was. I had said, okay, I'm not gonna cage my intuition anymore. I'm letting it run wild and free in my life. And I was really showing up for myself in that way. And I actually stumbled across a TED Talk about what happened in the early 90s at Yellowstone national park when they reintroduced the wolves. Have you heard that story? Probably because my husband is really into this sort of thing. But I. Please tell me, tell it again, because there's probably several people that have it. Yeah, absolutely. So I highly recommend the TED Talk. It's called for more wonder, rewild your world. But I think it's. George Mambia is, how you say it is the speaker, but. So he'll do. He'll do a much better job. But the Emily version is basically what happened was in the early 90s, Yellowstone was basically experiencing a ton of barrenness. It had a huge overpopulation of deer, which are. Right. The nice animals. We love deer. And they had decided that, like, the deer had sort of overgrazed, and there's all kinds of things that were happening that just had created this barren situation. And the scientists decided they're going to reintroduce just a handful of wolves, just a few wolves. And so they did. And of course, our first association is that wolves kill things, right? And a course they did. They killed a few deer. And because of that, the deer stopped grazing in areas where they could be easily trapped. And the trees in those areas started to quadruple in size in just a few years. And because of that, the branches were growing and the songbirds moved in and the berries and there were more branches. So then the beavers moved in and they created their own little micro ecosystems with rats and muskrats and all kinds of things. And then the hawks and the ravens moved in to get them, and then the bears moved in to get the berries and also kind of take what the wolves had left and reinforce that. And literally there's this. They call it a trophic cascade of abundance that just happened because they just reintroduced the wolves and the whole course of the river changed. So the river had been swampy in its edges and just wasn't sure in its course. And suddenly when, when the trees started to regrow and the animals were moving in, it regained the clear riverbank edges and was able to be sure in its course and it created these wonderful sections which are great for wildlife and literally the entire park transformed. And that is called rewilding. And that's actually what my signature coaching. It's a one on one, six month experience called Rewilded. And it is about reclaiming the parts of ourselves that have been cast out of the landscape of our life. Often the parts that we've said, oh, that's dangerous or too much or whatever. And watching as without, you know, they didn't intend, like, okay, when we reintroduce these wolves, the river's gonna change its course. But yeah, of course, as the magic happens, when you are living in your fullness, things unfold that you couldn't have expected and your life can actually be the radiant, full, alive life that you were meant to live. And, and that's what I honestly experienced myself and that's what I'm really passionate about in women. That's awesome. Yeah, I love that analogy too. And it's interesting, right? Because I mean, we don't have to get into like what I'm about to say, but I just think, I think it'll lead us in a direction which is, I wonder what would have happened though if nature just ran its course. Because the interesting part to me of the Yellowstone story you just told is that we interfered, right? Like we interfered and it turned out quote, unquote, well, whatever, but like it wasn't a natural phenomenon, right? Like we humans put the wolves back in the park, right. So I think, well, and I think. Humans were probably also a part of why the park didn't have the wolves to begin with. Right, right, right, right. So yeah, so it's compl. And that's, I mean this is like, we don't have to get into like a whole dialogue. I mean people can go listen to the talk and like have their own thoughts. Right. But my point is, you know, I think it's really interesting because I want to understand like your story. I think it's true in a lot of these instances, like when we're guided to do something that some things like that's our calling, right? It happens for us in one way, but I'm imagining that it doesn't happen for everyone in the way you described. Right. Like I'm imagining in your work with people, there's like a really full spectrums. So I'm feeling like there's someone out there that's like, Emily, that sounds awesome, but I have no idea how that. I don't even know what parts of myself I've cast out. I don't even know what that means and I don't even know how to welcome them back. So I'd love, like, I'd love for you to address that kind of pain point, as it were. Yeah, well, and actually that's exactly what the six month coaching experience is. It's actually a themed. There are 12 themed sessions and we do that work. We start with actually. I really believe that so many times when we desire something, we have a bad habit of kind of looking to the desire. So much so that we end up despising what's already here in the present. And actually in doing so, we cut ourselves off from the very building blocks that would allow us to move towards that desire. Um, and that's what we do is we, instead of saying like, okay, I want to be rewilded. I want, you know, my landscape. Yes, we do want those things. And also some of it's going to be magical and mysterious and we don't know how it will unfold. But what we're going to do is we're going to start where you are and we're going to say what's here, what's already barren, what's already flowering, what's alive and what are you longing for and what feels dry and dull and like, let's just take an honest assessment of what's here. And, and as we do that, there start to be things that pop and we start to notice like, okay, this is one of my strengths that I've never called a strength before, but I actually want to call it forth a little bit more. And this is something that feels dull, that I'm longing to, to bring back alive. And you know, there's different pieces to that, but we start with where you really are. And I think that's really important in any kind of. Yeah, just like self discovery work is beginning with the reality of what's here. That's super powerful. Thank you for sharing that. I love that. I think, you know, I see that as like acceptance. Right. And I think about that a lot. Like in my own work even, you know, with people's homes, I always find that they're like, I'm really interested in what you do. But my home is Not X, Y and Z. It's like, yeah, but you also live there and it is what it is and we can work with what is. And it's so true. It's like such this human thing, Right? Like this human thing to think that everything would be better if only X, Y and Z happened. Right. Like, if I had or didn't have or. It's just like, man, it's tough, but it's such a powerful stance to really just be with what is and really, like, sit with that. And I love the way you explained that because that almost wraps up that whole question for me. Right. Because when we were first talking, I was like, this all sounds awesome, but I have no idea what looking like, what that would look like. As, you know, I'm always envisioning myself. Right. But explaining it that way. So just that you're helping people really get clear on what is in their life. And in that process, that opens the door to the mystery. Right. Like to something else. So that's super cool. Yeah. Thank you for sharing that. Yeah. Let me see. I'm just curious where I want to go from here. Yeah, let's. I just want to hear about if you're open to sharing, obviously, no names, of course, but, like, some of the experiences that you've seen. Because I think this is just so powerful and I want people to sort of anchor it, like, you know, like the real life stuff. Yeah, absolutely. I have actually a really recent client experience that has just been like, resounding and impactful just in the last few weeks. But she. She really rediscovered her sacred rage. And it has been just. I mean, I'm actually tearing up just like kind of reliving the. The power and connecting with her through this. But, yeah, she had just been experiencing, like, hitting this wall and hitting this wall and like using all these other resources that were good resources in her life, like her creativity and her network and her skill at, you know, different things in the context of her business and her life. But had kind of been like, believing that the anger that she was holding wasn't the appropriate tool to use in those spaces. And came to this place where she was. We talked about. Right. Like, anger is meant to disrupt and there are different categories of anger. Right. Like, there's petty anger where it's like, I just wanna talk about it and be right and I don't want. Right. Like, and it doesn't really serve the world, but it's fine for you to move through it and move on. Right. But then there's anger that is meant to burn away things that are unjust and things that are not true. And in that process, to call forth something greater. And she was holding that kind of anger in her. And when she chose to show up and lead with that, which can be really terrifying, right, what happened was incredible. Like, she, she. Yeah, she got unstuck is what I'll say. But there. There was really, truly a terrific cascade of just powerful, like, financial income, like overflow of opportunities like travel suddenly started opening up to her. Just all kinds of abundance was available to her because she allowed herself to access a part of her that she'd been caging in that way. And so that. That has just been a really beautiful, powerful story that has been resonating. But some of the work we do in that is to say, like, okay, when you lead with this part of you that you've been afraid to lead with, it doesn't mean that the rest of you isn't there, right? It doesn't mean that your kindness, your generosity, your ability to, like, consider the other person's situation. It doesn't mean that any of those things are absent. And I think sometimes that's what we think. Like, if I bring that wolf in, it's going to devour everything else and I won't be able to. I won't be myself and I'll destroy. Well, no, like, the truth is you are a whole person. So these other parts of you temper this. But this still gets to belong, right? Like this, this part you've been afraid of still gets to show up. And it is powerful and it is disruptive, but it's disruptive for good if you choose to allow yourself to. To bring it forth in that way. And so I think that's one that's really standing out to me recently. That's awesome. I love that. Yeah, it's such a myst. Like, I love what I'm really feeling like as we're talking is this fact. It's a fact which is that when you free something that needs to be freed, there is that cascade. And I see this in space all the time, right? And it's not explainable, like, why when people clear out something next to their bed, does everything all of a sudden improve? Like, it has no. Or they. You know, I've seen like, the craziest things happen with clearing, right? Which is like this woman that was going through, she was in divorce process for. I might be getting this wrong. So forgive me if you're listening, but I think it was 10 years and she had all this stuff under her bed, like, all these old papers. I've told this story a lot because it's just so phenomenal stuff, memories with this person. And we had a discussion about that, and she got rid of them. And I think within a month, the divorce was final. Everything was done. Like, it was just finished. So it is this mystery. And I don't even know if you or I or anyone can answer. I mean, I'm sure there's a physicist somewhere that's like, some sort of answer to this question. Maybe you do. Of, like, it's perplexing to me, right? Like, even though I witness this all the time, it's perplexing to understand how when you unlock something in your life that needs to be unlocked, it is like this beautiful phrase you keep saying. What is it? Trophic cascade. Cascade. I love that. Like, that is so awesome. I love that. It's so beautiful. But this trophic cascade of just like. Yeah. And it's cool when we approach life like this, right? To, like, think about life as almost this. Not a game, but, like, this mystery of, like, what is it that I need to unlock? Because it's usually not about striving or performing better or, like, hustling harder. Right. It's sometimes it's about work, but it's often about, like, what is stuck. Like, what needs to unstick. Yes, yes, exactly. Actually, the I mentioned, I just launched a community and. Yeah, tell me about it. Yeah, it. Us. Sorry, guys. Sorry. Absolutely. It relates directly to what you're saying, actually. So the community is called root and ritual, and it's actually a sacred threshold space for women. And what that means is the threshold is like that wood part of the door that you step over to move from one room into the next. Right. You know about spaces. I'm sure you're familiar with thresholds. And. Yes, a threshold moment in someone's life is when they're moving from one season into the next, but they're in between. And. And I am really passionate about this because I have been stuck in threshold spaces for far too long, and I have been stagnant rather than appreciating the threshold moment as sacred. And I really believe that's because we have lost sight of rites of passage. Oh, hallelujah. Say it again. We have lost sight of rites of passage. I am so passionate about this. Sorry, Emily, interrupt you, but keep it going. Yeah, no, absolutely. Well, and the thing is that rites of passage used to be this opportunity for a community, in this case with me, of women to Come around another woman as she's moving from one season to the next. So you can think about any transition. Right. Like, a lot of the time, we tend to think of, like, a woman becoming a mom, which is great. Like, there's all kinds of medical advice that we have, and there's different. Like, we have a baby shower and things in there. And I think we actually are starting to move towards, like, more meaningful things. But we don't have a lot of the time. We don't. In any shift, we don't have this way to honor the identity transformation that is happening when you move from one season to the next. And that involves women saying, like, what do you need to release? What do you need to say is complete about this past season? And let it go. Oh, that. And this is where it connects to what you just said so that there is space for you to welcome what is in the next chapter. Because the truth is, if you're cluttered and you're dragging the muck from thing to thing to thing, you actually can't receive what is longing to enter your life. And so this threshold season can be so sacred, but a lot of the time, we just don't navigate it that way. Like, we're alone and we feel like we have to just like, push through. Yeah. Rush through. Exactly. And. Yeah. And so that's what the community I created is about. It's a multi generational sacred threshold community for women who are ready to just move from this season to the next with deliberate intention. And. Yeah. And so I. I really believe what you're saying about space is true in an energetic way just as much as in a physical way. Yeah. It's so powerful. And I really do feel like I keep having all these conversations around this in different ways. So I feel so excited that this is a transition that we're making and energetically in our world and that we get to be a part of as we move from. Oh, God, Cody, do I want to say this? Yeah. As we move from, like, the boomer generation, which, you know, God blessed them, but they didn't have this in them. Like, there was. You know, maybe there was some of it. But my experience is that that generation was, like, pretty. They had a way. They had a way of being right that was not this. So. Yeah. I don't even know if that's relevant. But my point is that I think this is so powerful, Emily, and I'm so happy that you're holding this space. And I'm so excited for anyone listening to this that Feels that pull because, like, I feel it too, is just like, it's just so important to have people that have. That are not above us. Right. And I don't get that energy from you at all. Like, you're not sitting here, like, I'm here, I know it all. And I'm going to show you how to do it. Right. You're walking in the mud with these women. Right. You're walking with someone. And that's the type of people we need. We need people that are just going to walk alongside. Like, maybe there are a few steps, like, hey, there's a rock over there. Like, don't trip on that rock. Right. But yeah, it's just, it's super powerful. So thank you so much for, for this work that you're doing. Thanks. Yeah, yeah. And that's actually part of why I emphasize that it's multi generational because I really believe that we have done a poor job also with stewarding our elders. Yeah. And you know, there's this like, belief of like, oh, you get to retire, like, go watch, go away for the. Rest of your life. Right. Like. Okay, yeah. And what about like the life that this human has lived and the desire that they have to still continue a purposeful existence? And what would it mean for us to put ourselves in spaces where it's easier for us to receive? And also, like, they need to receive from a younger generation. Right. Like there, there needs to be the differing perspectives and the opportunities to hear things that we might not have heard if we were only walking in the same exact circles. And so, yeah, it's. To me, it is a community. The best way to move through a threshold is in community. You can absolutely do it alone. And I also believe it's so much richer, so much fuller, so much more sacred when you do it in community. Yeah. That's so beautiful. And I know we're coming to the end of our time here, but I do want to circle back before we wrap up because you keep saying parts of self. Right. Or not recently, but yes. And I'm curious if this has any relation or if you've done any work in like, parts work like family, what is it? F I F. Yeah, ifs right. Systems. Yeah. So tell us because I'm sure there's someone else thinking the same thing. Right. So tell us a little bit about, like, if that's related or completely different. This is your own thing. Talk to me about your method, I guess, is what I'm really saying. Yeah, absolutely. I am not certified or licensed in any Ifs things, however, I do appreciate it very deeply. I do have a master's in counseling, but I actually didn't lean into that theory when I was in my masters. I wish I had because I love it now that I've learned about it since then. But no. So I, I do deeply appreciate, um, ifs, and, and I definitely would say I'm influenced by it. But one of the ways that really, the way that I. I bring myself into this is from, like, the true professional coaching place. I actually was certified in 2015, and then I was a coaching. I was a supervisor and trainer for coach people who are becoming coaches. And so I really believe in the, like, truest, like, present and future oriented, really connecting with, partnering with a human. And what happens when you actually listen deeply and champion them and call them forth. And so, like, coaching is my truest background. And in this work. And then I also bring in servant leadership. And I actually have a nursing degree as well. And so there's. There's some interesting, like, pieces from my health background that as well. But. But yeah, in the truest form of it, I'm a servant leader, coach. And I believe that in partnering with women that things you couldn't have expected but deeply long for can actually show up and come to the surface. So. So cool. And just one more question, I promise, but now that you brought in the nursing thing, how often do you find that there's a physical component component to this? Because I know that the other way that I feel these thresholds and transitions aren't so honored is in the understanding of women, shifting hormones and nutrition and depletion and all of this stuff. And I won't even say the nervous system buzzword, but. But the nervous system that everyone's talking about. So, you know, I'm curious, sort of, how does that come into play in the work that you do in terms of that dullness? Because I'm sure there sometimes can be a physical component. Oh, yes. 100%, I would say. Yeah. I'm. If it's not 100% of the time, it's 99% of the time. Yeah. And actually, like, I want to say, I'm so glad that the nervous system is being talked about that way because. Totally. Yeah. Hasn't been right. Yeah. A lot of the work I do is really grounded in ritual as well. So, like, a ritual is something that you can do that just takes a little bit of intention, but it honors that. There is sacred within the ordinary. And when you. It can be as simple as literally lighting A candle with an. Right. But like, when you say there's something important about this moment that I want to honor. Right. And. And we use a physical resource to do that. Like, in this case, we're talking about a candle, but. But then we also bring in our bodies. Like, our bodies actually remember much longer than we realize. And so bringing in ritual is a huge part of how we lock in the transformation that takes place in the coaching work that I do. So, yes, ritual and nervous system calming techniques are really beautiful, as well as just, like, movement and recognizing our body's intelligence and the way that we can metabolize experiences without always having to use our brain. Yeah. So all of those things are very much a part of what I see as the way we holistically navigate this. So beautiful. Thank you so much. I'm super excited for. I mean, you guys have already heard it because that's. This is that weird time moment where it's like, I'm with you right now, but they're listening also right now. Boy. Anyway, you guys remember my morning, so you forgive my little ramblings, but thank you so much, Emily. So what's the best way to connect with you? To, like, if you're. If someone's curious, but they just want to know a little more, experience your world a little more? Like, where should they dive in with you? And we'll put all this. Guys, don't pull over. We'll put all this in the show notes so you don't have to take note. It'll be links and all the things to connect directly with Emily. But let's just hear it, too. Yeah, absolutely. So I have a podcast called Moon and Fire, and it is really about. So the moon part is recognizing the cyclical wisdom that lives in us as women and how we have a whole range of being in that sense. And then the fire is what happens when you can reclaim your radiance. And so the podcast is a great way to kind of hear my voice and the topics that I'm navigating. And I also would encourage you to just hop on my website, wholeandwild.com there's a journal blog there. You can read through some things. There's email newsletter that is really the hub for me. I actually don't do social media right now other than Pinterest. And so that's the space. The email is the space where I share what's most potent. And I connect regularly with the people who want to be in the world with me. So. So cool. I'm excited to get on your newsletter and thank you so much for being here. What are you currently creating space for in your life? Yeah, that's such a great question. Thank you for asking me. Well, today, what I'm perfect for is so I have a front porch that I love. Like, it just. It is. It is where I feel the most myself. It is where I remember my voice. It's where I can journal and talk out loud and have my drink, you know, tea or whatever. And I also have a almost two year old. And so getting onto the porch has been a deliberate choice that I have had to have a lot of discipline around. And that is something that I'm so committed to because every time I choose it, I feel the impact of it in such a great way in the rest of my life. And so right now, even today, I'm looking forward to that when he takes a nap. But. But what that actually means in the larger context of my life is that I'm also making space for my sacred voice to really lead the way in my business. And as opposed to pressure, right? As opposed to like, I should be doing this in my business or that. Right? No, when it's ripe and there's a. A message that is true, that's what leads the way for me. So can't think of a more beautiful place to end. Don't say goodbye to me yet, Emily. We'll say goodbye privately. But bye, everyone. Thank you so much for listening and I'm looking forward to you all connecting with Emily. Thank you so much. Okay, thanks again, Emily. I really loved having you. And guys, I hope you check her out. So, feng shui time. Well, I'm just gonna be honest. I've been kind of in it with my home and home. I love you so much. I'm just gonna say that. But, you know, whenever you move to a new space, especially if it's a big move like we did, there is going to be this transitional period. And this reminds me of when you have a baby, because everyone's like, six weeks back to work. Not everyone, guys, not everyone. But the culture and the government is like, here you go, here's your six weeks. Now you're fine. Now you're better. You can start exercising, you can start doing whatever you want. You're done. You've healed from birth. And that's such crap. Really. I mean, pardon my French, but that's such. Oh, wait, I have to tell you this little aside. This is interesting. So, guys, please let me know. I really, please, please write me on Instagram and Let me know what you think about this. This is a totally tangent, but I was at a children's birthday party and look, I have. Have a pretty. I'm gonna go with open vocabulary. I curse and we curse in front of our two year old. And is it the best thing? No. Am I like super excited that I do that? No. But you know, on the list of things I'd like to not do, it's not high on my priorities right now. So I just try and do as minimally as possible. But we do curse and stuff in front of our daughter anyway. I'm mindful or in public, I try to be right. So we're swinging on the swings of my daughter and this other little girl who's five. I say to Montana something about like, get your butt back on the seat. And she goes, that's a bad word. And I was like, what's a bad word? She's like, you can't say. But I was like, wow, really? Like, we can't say but. Guys, can we not say but is butt out? Like, what's the new word bottom behind tushy? Like, what do I say here? So help me out. Anyway, all that aside, this reminds me like the home moving process reminds of me me of the, in a way, the birth process where it's like there's these expectations that it's going to take a certain amount of time for you and your new home to gel. And that's a very short amount of time. A couple months and you'll be good, right? And when you live a feng shui lifestyle as I do, it's not true, okay? It takes time, sometimes it takes years to recover from giving birth to a child. I'm still recovering and mine's 2.5 years old. And other, other times it's a quicker process and everyone is different. And that is the same with your home. So this is for all my peeps who are thinking about moving, just moved or really moved a couple years ago. It's going to take some time to feel at home in your space. And the biggest thing that I am here to stand for with Feng Shui is that it is a relationship in your life. It is not a weekend to do list. It is not a decluttering style. It is not a decorating style. It is not even a manifestations tool. It is so much more than that. It is a way and a wisdom to really welcome this living totally alive being into your life and to start to work as a team, as a partnership, the way you do with Your partner, if you have one, or your children if you have them, or your pets if you have them. So I just want to say that if you are practicing some light feng shui and it's not doing quote unquote what you you want, that doesn't mean you're doing it right. It just means that energy is moving. It's all feng shui is about creating momentum and energy. And sometimes that energy is going to shift in a way that is unexpected or that is taking on a bit of a twist and turn because something has to clear before we get to the other thing. Right. So it's all about just putting you back in alignment with the flow of nature and with what I believe is the highest timeline for your life, whether that always looks the way you want it to. Here's a tiny story to anchor that for you. You've probably seen this on Instagram, if you follow me, which I hope you do. And if you don't follow me. Spacewithcody. So it was eclipse time. It's ending. It's over. I think it's done. Maybe winding down, but we passed the equinox now. Today is the 22nd, I believe 23rd. Today's the 23rd, but what I'm talking about was a few days ago. So sort of like right at that new moon eclipse that we just had. Yeah. Is it true that it's possibly not the best time prob. The best time to do feng shui adjustments during eclipse season. Truth. Truth right there. Right. I did not do a major cure, but I did do some things that I felt called to do during this time. And here's what happened. So I did a little shooshing, floofing of the front door. I put some fall decorations out. My husband called me a Long island mom. I was like, yes, I am. I'm a Long island mom. I'm all about the fall. Bring it on. Give me some pumpkin spice and some orange and some leaves. Right. So, yes, the. The wreath is up. The new doormat's out. It's very fall, very Long island mom and I did a little front door stuff, refreshed our intentions that are there, added some new coins under the mat, and then I started moving some things. Gentle movement, nothing crazy. I'm not moving heavy furniture. Right. I'm just moving, like, plants. There's some plants that are dying. Got rid of those. It was hard for me, but I did moved some things off. I redid the mantle mantel's very fall. Yes. I have two gold pumpkins on the mantel. Preach. And, you know, just some light. Light stuff here and there. Added there's a mirror. I need to move my bedroom back into the house. All these things. So I did that stuff. And then the next day, Doug went to change the filters in our whole house. Water filter system, which only happens once a year. And. And this is the first time he's done it. And we have guests coming over. They've just arrived. So there's like, people that have never been to our house in the kitchen. And Doug comes running up the basement stairs. I'm like, oh, it's all good. He goes, no, the basement's flooding. Hurry, towels, you know. So we run downstairs. Now, it's not like a major flood, but there is a considerable amount of water. There was a broom and sweeping of water involved in cleanup. Right. But all things considered, it was minor. A minor situation. We did have to call plumber, so it's like a medium situation. But it's not like we had the basements flooding and we're still. Still dealing with them. We're throwing things out, and there's mold and da, da ba. It's just. It's. It's over. It's all good. But of course, I'm like, oh, no, what have I done? I did it wrong. What am I doing? I shouldn't even be doing this with my life. Blah, blah, blah, right? But the truth is that, okay, maybe things would have been calmer had I waited until after the eclipse. I don't know. Or maybe my house needed to release something. Now, releasing through water is really intelligent, right? So it's possible that there was some sort of blockage that my home was holding on to that needed to be released. Now, it's also not lost on me that this time last year was an absolute shit show. I will tell this whole story at some point, but this is the time right before we moved into this home where we had to fire the cops contractor we've been working with for two years who was a friend of Doug's and get a new contractor. The house was an absolute disaster. It had been really poorly looked after, and they were big, sloppy, messy things that were being done. And end, end, end, end, end. Right. I'll tell this whole story sometimes, but it's interesting because it's possible that my home is still recovering from that experience, and I would not blame her for doing so. So all to say, trust, just if you're in feng shui, if you're lightly in feng shui, if it calls to you, keep following that, keep learning, keep diving in, because I promise you that the miracles and the amazingness is there as well. It's just, it's all part of living this deeper life and this more in touch life. And without the foundation of Feng Shui, I truly believe that it is the foundation. 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